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The Joy Luck Club, written by Amy Tan is a book that portrays the life experiences and expectations of a daughter and a mother. Throughout the novel, the mothers and daughters have evolved with their relationships and their way of thinking in this book. Ying-Ying, or Betty, and Lena have truly evolved in their relationship mentally and emotionally.  The reasons that these concepts are vital to understanding the novel are: Different environments give you a different perspective on your way of thinking, learning to see through petty problems to find a truth, and trusting your instincts.Usually, different types of environments can mold a completely different person, but Ying-Ying and Lena were both similar to each other though they grew up differently. Throughout her life, Ying-Ying managed to develop a way of knowing something before it happens. She made choices based on this habit and lived her life with it. It states,  ‘All around this house I see signs. My daughter looks but does not see. This is a house that will break into pieces. How do I know? I have always known a thing before it happens. (Tan 243) This means that Ying-Ying knew what would happen to her daughter, Lena, and her marriage. Ying-Ying had ended up looking crazy because of it and started to overthink situations that made Lena think there was something mentally wrong with her mother. “Aii-ya! Such questions! Because it is too terrible to consider. A man can grab you off the streets, sell you to someone else, make you have a baby. Then you’ll kill the baby. And when they find baby in a garbage can, then what can be done? You’ll go to jail, die there.” (Tan 106) She would see what happened based on where she grew up and try to say the same thing would happen in America. She always worried for Lena and never wanted her to get hurt, but she always knew it was going to happen. Because of the environment, she grew up in and her past, she had developed many worries and predicting what would happen with the baby. “And then this baby, maybe he heard us, his large head seemed to fill with hot air and rise from the table. The head turned to one side, then to the other. It looked right through me. I knew he could see everything inside me. How I had given no thought to having this baby!” (Tan 112) Another point is learning to see through petty problems. In the novel, it is obvious that in some chapters when Lena and her husband start arguing about things as small as fleas instead of issues that they try to avoid. ‘And at the same time, I hated myself for being mean-spirited, for thinking Harold deserved this torment. Yet I couldn’t help myself. I was mad at Harold and he was exasperated with me. That morning, before we picked my mother up, he had said, “You should pay for the exterminators because Mirugai is your cat so they’re your fleas. It’s only fair.” None of our friends could ever believe we fight over something as stupid as fleas, but they would also never believe that our problems are much, much deeper than that, so deep I don’t even know where the bottom is.’ (Tan 150) They were always so focused on everything being equal that their marriage was never based on any actual feelings for each other. Thye marriage was just for the fact that they both could tolerate being equal. The table and vase incident also shows how unstable their marriage was. The table is seen as their marriage. When it is mentioned it is described as something with “no fluidity” and “unstable”. It was like how their marriage was ready to fall apart at the lightest touch. When it falls, which is after the argument with Lena and Harold, the table falls down the marriage is presumed over. “Fallen down,” she says simply. She doesn’t apologize. “It doesn’t matter,” I say, and I start to pick up the broken glass shards. “I knew this would happen.” “Then why don’t you stop it?” asks my mother. And it’s such a simple question. (Tan 165) This is a symbol of their marriage and how all their problems had added up to one big mess that would eventually no longer hold itself.Finally, you must learn to trust your instincts and surrounding. Ying-Ying always trusts her instinct when it comes to the future. ‘She can see all this. And it annoys me that all she sees are the bad parts. But then I look around and everything she’s said is true. And this convinces me she can see what else is going on, between Harold and me. She knows what’s going to happen to us. Because I remember something else she saw when I was eight years old. My mother had looked into my rice bowl and told me that I would marry a bad man.’ (Tan 151) It shows that Ying-Ying uses what’s around her to function and to know what is happening. Because of her past with her first husband, she knew that the same thing would happen with Lena. Lena knows that she can see through the fake happiness that Lena and Harold are using and that she knows that there is a real problem hidden inside. In the end, Lena became the same and develops the same instincts as her mother, meaning she gains her mother’s spirit. ‘I wonder why my father never worried. Was he blind? Did my mother and I see something more? (Tan 109) Though Lena grows up in an American setting, she sees her mother in a different way her father does. She understands her emotionally and physically. She sees through her mother’s act while with her father which goes with how Ying-Ying could see through the marriage between Hrold and Lena. ‘My loathing for Arnold had grown to such a point that I eventually found a way to make him die. I let one thing result from another. Of course, all of it could have been just loosely connected coincidences. And whether that’s true or not, I know the intention was there. Because when I want something to happen – or not to happen – I begin to look at all events and all things as relevant, an opportunity to take or avoid. (Tan 153) Lena also has the patience to let things happen on there own so it will eventually go in her way. She could tell in the future that this would work; just like Ying-Ying’s ability to see what will happen in the future. They eventually became each other in the end despite both of their environments.The duo had always been the closest to each other when it comes to support and attitude.  They both have the same spirit and the kind of situations they were put in were different, but they made them into the same person. They both see through issues or they know what will happen in certain situations based on surroundings. They grew up in different environments, but their spirits eventually became one. “Fallen down,” she says simply. She doesn’t apologize. “It doesn’t matter,” I say, and I start to pick up the broken glass shards. “I knew this would happen.” “Then why don’t you stop it?” asks my mother. And it’s such a simple question. (Tan 165)


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