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Understanding loss and the process of grief.

Everyone one in the world experiences an event that could be considered a loss and trigger grief, everyone has a different way of dealing with grief and have a different range of emotions pain, anger, hurt, denial and guilt and it can effect behaviours, a person may become more agitated or aggressive by taking anger out on others , start drinking or drink more heavily , refuse to see family or friends . your thinking can also affect, you might over think things, be forgetful or go in to denial thinking it hasn’t happened. It’s not just death that can be associated with loss there are many other things that can have a negative effect on individuals life’s. Loss of a home, loss of sight or even loss of independence can trigger grief in an individual.

A type of loss associated with death.

The loss of a family member is a major event in an individual’s life, whether it be a parent, child, sibling, or grandparent, this is a loss that can never be recovered and can affect all aspects of life physically and mentally. sometimes death may be anticipated where a person knows they are terminally ill or have an injury, this can give family time to say their farewells and comes to terms with life without the person. This allows us to prepare for the imminent death and the grieving process may have already started, an unanticipated death is when someone dies suddenly it could be an accident, a heart attack, drug overdose or even suicide. I lost a family member to a drug overdose, I had feelings of guilt, anger, shock and I felt numb, I couldn’t believe what was happening to me I’d wake up thinking it was a dream then reality would hit and go into a state of shock and be inconsolable , I never had my chance to say my goodbyes or tell him I love him. I fell into depression didn’t leave the house and became very withdrawn. Years later it’s still raw and haven’t come to terms with what happened, I may never.

The loss of a home may because of the death of a spouse and they might not be able to look after one’s self that a person is going into residential care, the person may also lose their independence, not only they will be grieving for their partner but also the loss their home, and could experience feelings of insecure, powerless, venerable lonely and sad. it could be you have lost your job and are not able to pay rent or mortgage that may contribute to the loss of a home, this can trigger depression, helpless and can make a person feel worthless.
A type of loss not associated with death.

The loss of freedom can trigger grief, a person going to prison can loss their freedom and this can trigger grief due to the person losing their choice and control over their lives, and the loss of their independence. They are cut off from the rest of society, and their access to supportive friends and family is limited. This can also trigger grief in the families, a family may experience grief due to a family member being in prison.

The loss of innocence can trigger grief in individuals, this grief is usually related to sexual abuse or rape, the physical pain may often be mended but the mental scars can stay with us a lot longer or they may never heal. Abuse survivors may experience psychological and social losses resulting from traumas, these can be loss of trust, loss of childhood, loss of family relationships, loss of self-esteem, loss of personal power, loss of self, and loss of the ability to feel pleasure in life.
A theoretical model applied to an anticipated experience of loss.

Elizabeth Kubler-Ross 5 Stage model, Kubler-Ross studied terminally ill patients and saw a pattern emerge that she saw as 5 stages, she identified the 5 stages as,
1 Denial and isolation, a person may go into denial and refuse to accept this is happening to them, isolation can be individuals avoiding the person who is dying or the dying person locking themselves away not wanting to see anyone.

2 Anger, a person may blame someone else for their illness, be asking why me I don’t deserve this, display anger at other by acting out aggression.

3 Bargaining, trying to prevent this from happening by making a deal with god. tries to negotiate more time to attend a special occasion, wedding, graduation or christening.

4 Depression, fear of death, death starts to become a reality.
5 Acceptance, this is the stage where the acceptance of death becomes a reality, this may not be a happy stage as may have taken a while to reach the acceptance stage, it’s usually void of feelings.

Kubler-Ross believed that all individuals progressed through all stages in consecutive order , I believe not everyone will go through these stages and not everyone will go through them in this order , an elderly person may be ready to die and believe they have lived their life and some might pretend to be ready to die to ease the pain of their family , some may miss stages as a person may die before meeting the acceptance stage.

A theoretical model applied to an unanticipated experience of loss.

Adams Hayes and Hopson (1977), this model explains how a person’s self-esteem is affected when they go through a significant change or transition in their life. There are 7 stages to this model, however the pattern of stages is a generalisation and people may or may not go through all stages in a certain order, some may move forward and backwards between stages, some may become stuck in a state of depression. some may reach the end, but an event may happen that throws them back at the beginning.

1 Immobilisation, this is a stage that a person experiences a state of shock and disbelief, this stage may last a few minutes or longer and their self-esteem will drop once a person realises their life will change.

2 Minimisation, this stage is where there will be a slight increase in self-esteem as the person attempts to minimise the change or transition.

3 Depression, this stage is when reality hits and a person realise the impact the change or transition will have on their life, the person may experience a range of emotions which may be anger, helplessness and become withdrawn.

4 Acceptance of reality/letting go, this stage is about a person accepting life has changed and will not be the same as it was in the past and facing up to the future. this is the stage a person’s self-esteem will be at their lowest.

5 Testing, this is the stage a person starts experimenting with new ideas and behaviours and looks forward to a new way of leading their life, this stage a person’s self-esteem will increase as they establish a more positive self-concept.
6 Search for meaning, this stage is the stage a person attempts to make sense of their situation and the need for change, the person is now exploring what is important to them in this stage of their life.

7 Internalisation, this stage the person has now adapted to change, their self-esteem is higher as the transition has become an accepted part of life.

Adam, Hayes and Hopson model can be applied to the loss of a job or a home. It can also be applied to a sudden death or an illness.

Legal requirements and procedures in the event of a death in a care setting. There is a variety of care settings, a person may live in a residential or may be supported at home. In the case of finding a person dead in their own home , I would call risk management who will contact the relevant emergency service which will include ambulance and police , I will then contact my line manager .I should not move or remove anything in the house , I should leave everything as it is as police will need to see the house exactly how it was found, in case death is suspicious . If a death happened during the night or was sudden or unexpected a doctor would be called immediately, if not it could wait till morning. the doctor would issue a medical certificate of cause of death (form 11) to register the death, provided there are no unusual circumstances, and if there was a report would be sent to the procurator fiscal. The next of kin will be informed if known, in the case of no next of kin, I would contact an undertaker who would arrange the laying of the body. Depending on cultural or religious preferences the appropriate religious or non-religious person would be contacted. a person may have a will, it’s important to find any will as soon as possible, this may state the persons wishes after death as well as what will happen to their estate this may include money, property and possessions.

If someone dies in a hospital the charge nurse will contact the next of kin and arrange a time for them to attend the hospital, they may be asked to identify the body , documents would need to be provide for personal possessions and if the person wished for organ donation the hospital staff would need to be made aware also if body was to be donated to medical science. A funeral director would be contacted who will arrange the laying of the body .and a death certificate would be issued.

There are several agencies who offer support to the bereaved, Social work department can help if community care is needed or if children have been left orphaned through death of parents. The benefit system can also help with financial issues, or additional help with funeral costs. Bereavement UK offer support and guidance to individuals through online support. They have specialists who support people through loss and transition. As well as support and guidance, they have a 24hour counselling service. There are many other voluntary agencies to help people experiencing loss and grief.

It’s important to understand that everyone one grieves in different ways, some people who have been bereaved may want to talk about the person who has died, one of the most helpful things is to listen, it’s important to be a good listener. Some may want time alone, so give them time alone to grieve. the most important skills a care worker can have when supporting someone who is bereaved is effective communication skills. A person who has been bereaved must have a way of expressing feelings and communicate these feelings.Its important that this can be done without the person being judged. It can be an emotional time for a care worker also, it could be that the deceased person and worker had a good relationship and the worker may have been one of the few people the deceased seen on a regular basis, or that the care worker has experienced the death of a loved one. for a care worker who has never experienced the death of a person they cared for can be an emotional time.

In the past death was a part of everyday life, when a person past away the body would be kept in the family home until it was time to be laid to rest. the family would clean and prepare the body for burial, during this time the family would carry on as normal, cooking, cleaning of the house and the daily running of the house and receiving visitors who came to pay their last respects .Nowadays most people die in hospitals so the responsibility is taken on by the medical profession and undertakers /funeral directors take care of the body , help with most of the funeral arrangements.

Rites and practices of 4 major religions.

Hinduism , when a death happens the family come together to prepare the body before the body is taken for cremation, the body will be wrapped in a white sheet , prayers are usually said at the entrance of the crematorim .The chief morner is usually the eldest son or eldest male in the family ,they represent the whole family and push the button to make the coffin disappear . After the cremation the family morn for 13 days during this time family and friends come to offer condolences .Buudism , budists believe in reincarnation , it can be a burial or a cremation , although cremeation is traditional .Monks perform the ceremony givinf talks and chanting scriptures on theme of impermanence and the transitory nature of life .the ceremony does not dwell on bereavement , but on the qualities of the dead person. Family members may assit in lifting the casket as a final act of service.most budists are cremated 3-7 days after death.

Judism ,during the period between death and burial (Aninut), the family care for the dead and prepare the body for burial .the family are left alone to grieve during the aninut , no calls or visits should be made during this time. A relative or friend prepare a meal of condolence , usually made of egg (symbolizing life) and bread .visitors may come to give condolences afterwards.the family then enters a 7 day period of intense mourning (shiva ,”seven”). Shiva is followed by schloshim (“thirty”) which last till the 30th day after burial. The final period of formal mourning is Avelet , it lasts for 12months.
Christianity , a religious service takes place to celebrate a persons they had and the journey they take through death, the service usually include hyms and readings only for funerals . the deceased is either buried or cremated ,during this special prayers are said ,Mourners will usually be wearing black and after the service they gather for a wake , this is usually food and drink .

Jehovah is a new religion , there are no specific rituals for death , spiritual care will be provided by a local witness.a Jehovah witness funeral is similar to a christan one. The serive will either take place in a funeral home or kingdom hall , jehovahs place of worship.
New age funerals are environmentally friendly form of burials , usually taken place in woodlands , nature reverses or at home if the size of ground allows it . coffins are either made of cardboard or other echo friendly materials Non – religious responses to death.

Druids offer rites of passage
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